In viewing lots of “talking heads” on mom and dad’s television, I’ve noticed that a lot of these influencers-of-public-opinion are women. Because of my strong bent toward motherhood, I always wonder about these women’s personal lives. Let me share with you what I discovered as I did a little exploring.
Megyn Kelly, a prominent news and political commentator who hosts The Kelly Files on the Fox News Channel, was honored as one of the 100 most influential people in the world by Time magazine in 2014. Wow! I’d say she’s a poster-child for the empowerment-of-women movement. However, we often fail to look below the surface at the price paid for such achievements. At age 43 she has three small children with her second husband. When asked how she balanced her nightly show with raising her kids, she responded with this: “Having a very supportive husband helps a lot.” Another key? A nanny. “I couldn’t do it without a nanny, and that’s the truth.”
Following are quotes from an article posted on several online sites: Unfortunately, Megyn’s first marriage failed. Her first husband remembers the priest who married them expressing concerns about their relationship. Her husband was a doctor and she, at the time, was a high-powered lawyer. When the priest told her that it was going to be important for her to take care of her husband and home, she replied, “What about him taking care of me?” Her husband is quoted as saying, “I wanted a wife and she wanted a wife—we both needed someone to cook for us, clean for us, and support us.”
Ouch! Those comments make me sad. Society has convinced women that motherhood and homemaking are second-class callings not worthy of their lives, time, and attention. Being a “help-meet” to our husbands is viewed as a demeaning calling from which we need to break free. Our daughters are taught that the most important goal is to pursue their own dreams and callings—even at the expense of husband and children. I am not trying to bad-mouth Megyn Kelly (I pray she will choose a path she will not regret in the end.) but her life can serve as a reality- check as we make life decisions based on a Biblical perspective.
The Bible teaches us about the principle of sowing and reaping. It is well understood that we reap what we sow. What we often forget is that we also reap where we sow. If we sow into our careers, we will undoubtedly reap there—as exemplified by Megyn’s life. Unfortunately, she is dependent on someone else doing a major part of the raising of her children. On her deathbed I doubt she will wish she had won another major award or made even more career advancements. I suspect she will wish she had been more present in the lives of her children. If we want to reap on the home-front, we need to make that the primary place in which we sow.
It is interesting that the woman’s husband in Proverbs 31 received his praise in the city gates—in the public arena. What was the source of her praise? It came from her husband and children. Two different spheres of influence, but two equally important callings. Obviously, she had been present, had faithfully met their needs, and had chosen to sow her life into her home and family.
I share these things to encourage you, dear mother. When you choose to lay down your life to care for your children and support your husband—no matter what the world says—you are doing very important work. Your name may not make the list of the 100 most important people in the world, but I have a strong feeling it will be very high on the list of very important people in heaven.
Your calling is valuable and important! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
PS: Today’s picture features Margot James Watson, our 7th grandchild, as she celebrated her first birthday with her best bud Wally (a.k.a. Sir Walter Watson.) Lee and Julie, our third oldest daughter, are her awesome parents.I had to post this picture, because I can’t stop smiling every time I see it! Since they live in Charleston, South Carolina, and we don’t get to see them very often, Julie posted a picture-a-day of Margot during her first year of life so I (and her other grandmothers) could enjoy her on a daily basis. Margot is very fertile ground into which Julie is faithfully sowing her life.